We’ve heard time and time again that there are plenty of people out there who don’t like to talk money with their partners. But it seems keeping secrets about your financial situation really isn’t good for a relationship, and a new survey reveals just how bad things can get.
A survey by GoBankingRates finds that a little over 27% of people say they would actually consider divorcing a spouse who kept financial secrets. Women are more likely to want to end things over the issue, with 29% saying they’d consider it, as opposed to 25% of men.
So what kind of financial secrets are particularly bad? Well, debt is a big one, although it would have to be a lot of debt for someone to be willing to go the divorce route. In fact, most folks say it would take $15,050 in debt, on average, before they would consider divorce, although those 25 to 34 are more forgiving, with $18,094, on average the amount that would send them to divorce, while those 18 to 24 would tolerate less, $12,001.
So, the big question is…are people actually keeping financial secrets from their partners? Well, actually no. The poll finds that 78% of people insist they have not lied to either their current or ex-partner about finances, while 22% have. As for what those folks are lying about, the most common secrets include:
- Spending habits (10.3%)
- Debt (8.3%)
- Salary or income (5.9%)
- Savings (4.9%)
- Investments (3%)
- Credit scores (2.4%)
- Gambling habits (2.2%)
Most parents know their kids are often unreasonable, and can throw a tantrum for absolutely no reason, often in the worst possible locations. Well, now some of those parents are sharing the ridiculous reasons for their kids’ meltdowns and they are pretty hysterical.
It all started when someone on Reddit posed the question, “What's the most illogical thing your toddler had a breakdown over?” and plenty of parents were more than happy to respond.
- “My toddler lost it because the imaginary door on his imaginary fire truck wouldn’t open, and he was stuck inside."
- “Our daughter cried because she didn't get to go to her parents' wedding — seven years before she was born."
- “From the backseat my enraged toddler sobbed, 'He's looking out my window!' He was mad because his brother was looking out of 'his' window instead of the other one."
- "My 2-year-old son heard my wife crumple up a receipt and for the next hour lost his mind that we had a cookie we were holding out on him. No amount of explaining could fix the situation."
- “My kid screamed at his balloons for an hour because they wouldn't stop floating."
- “My son wanted me to wrap him like a burrito for bed. I did, but he was upset that I wrapped him like a bean burrito, crying, 'I want to be a chicken and rice burrito!'"
- “They wanted another chicken nugget, so I gave them another chicken nugget. Breakdown."
- "Kiddo flipped out because the cat cheated in a game they were playing."
- “My daughter lost it because she wanted a twin sister (she has a twin sister)."
- “My toddler loves being tickled, so I was tickling him one day. He let out a huge fart and immediately started crying and screaming. I asked him why he was screaming and he replied, 'I was saving that for later.'"
New research from dating site eHarmony looks at how content couples are in their relationship. The survey, done with Harris Interactive, focuses on what traits the happiest responders share so we get an idea of what it takes to be happy in love.
They asked 2,300 people what was important in a relationship and there were some differences between what men and women value. Women tend to focus more on emotional and financial stability, but with the guys, happiness, physical attraction, and health were higher for them.
But overall, the happiest couples tend to have these things in common:
- They have a healthy intimate life.
- They share an equal balance of economic power.
- They were younger - between the ages of 25 and 44.
- They have two kids.
- They each earn at least $75,000 a year and have a college degree.
- They share similar political convictions.
- They have a better awareness of social justice issues.
A few other revealing tidbits from the eHarmony survey:
- While 70% of respondents say sharing a life together is more important than marriage, 55% say marriage would make their relationship happier.
- Only one in five women say they feel more empowered as a result of #MeToo.
- Only 26% of unhappy couples say they feel their relationship is equal in terms of power and economics, compared to 42% for happy couples.
In what will come as a shock to zero moms out there, a new study finds that dads are happier than moms. Researchers from the University of California Riverside worked with 18,000 couples and found fathers are enjoying parenting more than mothers and it’s basically because they get to have more fun while they’re doing it.
The dads reported “greater positive emotions and fewer daily hassles” than the moms in the study. And that’s because more of the dads report actually playing with their children while taking care of them. Moms get this, and they’d rather be playing with their kiddos more too, but someone has to cook dinner, make sure there’s toothpaste and toilet paper in the house, and that everyone has clean underwear.
Sure, dads today do more household chores than their fathers and grandfathers did, but a lot of stuff is still on moms to remember, like what size clothes and shoes the kids wear and who likes what kind of jelly on their PB&Js. The study authors do offer a suggestion to fix the problem. They say parents - especially moms -should just try to play with their kids more. And they have a point. There’s a lot for moms to do besides playing with their children, but that laundry can wait for 15 minutes while you spend some carefree time with your little ones, who won’t be little for long.
Source: Scary Mommy
Valentine’s Day is less than a week away and Starbucks is treating us to a special Valentine’s menu once again. The highlight of the holiday offerings has to be the Cherry Mocha, which is back this year, much to fans’ delight. The sweet espresso-based drink made with candied cherry syrup and mocha sauce made its debut last year and didn’t stick around long enough, so we welcome its return. But once again, it’s only available through February 14th, so get it while you can.
But the Cherry Mocha isn’t the only fun, festive Starbucks Valentine treat, they’ve also got some limited-time additions to the bakery case. The Valentine’s Day cake pop is made with intense chocolate cake coated with red icing and topped with candy hearts. And they also have a Valentine’s Day Heart Sugar Cookie, which is a buttery treat with white icing and rainbow-colored sprinkles. If you want to get your hands on one of these goodies, get to Starbucks before Valentine’s Day, which is next Thursday.