While everyone loves a vacation, when the trip you’re taking is not by choice it certainly can put a damper on things. Such obligatory vacations can be for a number of reasons, like a destination wedding, or graduation and it seems folks are going on a lot of them, and spending a lot of money. Enter the world of "oblications."
A new survey finds that one in three Americans have taken at least one oblication, meaning it was a trip they felt obligated to go on, even though they didn’t want to. Not surprising, only 46% of people say they like these trips as much as ones they plan for themselves. And these oblications don’t come cheap, with reports suggesting about $197 billion a year is spent on trips people feel obligated to take.
So, how do you get out of these oblications, without people getting mad at you? Well, experts tell "Moneyish" that there are some steps you can take. They include:
- First off, they note that it’s pretty impossible to decline a “landmark oblication” like say your dad’s 90th birthday, or a sister’s destination wedding, but if your dad throws a party every year, or your sister’s getting married for the fifth time it may be okay to skip. If a shower is for a distant or non-close relative, that’s fine too.
- Experts add that it’s better not to say no right away, rather say you’ll think about it, since it would be nicer to turn down the invite later, than to say you’re coming and then cancel at the last minute.
- If you do have to decline, be firm about your decision. Thank the person for the invitation and then give them an explanation for why you won’t attend, but don’t be too elaborate with your excuse. If they seem upset, don’t back down. Stick to your guns but do it as politely as possible.
The name Heather may soon be extinct: While it isn’t uncommon for certain names to go out of fashion over the years, a once popular name has been declining at a rapid pace. According to a recent study, the name Heather has been rapidly declining over the years. Back in 1975 it was one of the most popular names, with over 24,000 babies sharing the name, but in 2017, only 291 girls were given the name. So what gives? Well, the study suggests the 1980s movie, “Heathers” may have been to blame, especially since all the Heathers in the film were mean girls.
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We may dream about taking a super long vacation to get away from it all, but next time you’re actually planning a trip, you may want to think small instead. Like three-day weekend small. Because according to psychotherapist and well-being expert Jonathan Alpert, taking just a Friday or Monday off work can do as much for your mental health as taking the whole week off.
“Clients often tell me they want to go as far away as possible for as long as possible,” Alpert explains. “But then it takes a day to get to their destination, they run into issues accessing their email in a remote place, and inevitably, they get so stressed planning it, that they aren’t able to truly disconnect.”
Plus, since the average American only gets 10 paid vacation days a year, taking several short vacations can help us feel more refreshed and recharged all year long. Quick trips are less stressful because they’re easier to plan, cheaper to take, and we get more vacations to look forward to spread out over the year. Now you just have to decide where you want to spend those 72 hours of bliss.
Source: Travel and Leisure
Some brides go a little over the top before their big day, that’s why they call them “bridezillas.” But a Reddit thread sharing one bride’s outrageous wedding day requests has the attention of the Internet because it’s so ridiculous. Laika_cat posted an email from the couple’s wedding coordinator and people are in disbelief.
The email starts off with the wedding coordinator introducing herself, then explaining that she’s reaching out to confirmed guests to do a final headcount and “to go over some rules and regulations for the wedding day.” The message is full of typos and creative spelling, but the outrageous part is this list of dos and don’ts. It reads:
- Please arrive 15-30 minutes early
- Please DO NOT wear white, cream or ivory
- Please do not wear anything other than a basic bob or ponytail
- Please do not have a full face of makeup
- Do not record during the seramony
- Do not check in on FB until instructed
- Use #[REDACTED] when posting all pictures
- DO NOT TALK TO THE BRIDE AT ALL
- Everyone will toast with Rémy. No acceptance.
- Lastly must come with gift 75$ or more or you want be admitted.
Some of these are actually reasonable, like being on time and not wearing white, but let’s talk about the rest. Telling guests how to wear their hair and makeup is overstepping for sure and restricting everyone from talking to the bride at all is too much. And not everyone drinks, or likes cognac, so everyone shouldn’t HAVE to toast with it. But worst of all may be that bit about coming with a gift worth $75 or more has to be the worst. It’s hard to imagine what kind of professional wedding coordinator would send this, or how the bride agreed to it. Just imagine how much fun the guests will have!