When folks get married they may vow to spend the rest of their lives with each other, but that doesn’t mean they want to spend all their time together. In fact, a new report reveals that no matter how much a woman loves her hubby, she’d really rather be hanging with her bestie.
A new survey finds that more than 50% of married gals would rather spend time with their best friend then their hubby. What’s more, 30% would prefer to have boozy lunches with their friends and 60% actually say they have a better time if no men are there at all.
As for why gals prefer their best friend over their man, the main reason is because they understand each other (57%), while the fact that a bestie actually listens to what they are saying is also a key reason (45%). Other reasons married women would rather hang with a best friend include:
- I can tell her things I could not tell my partner (44%)
- We enjoy the same things (41%)
- We laugh until we cry (39%)
- I can truly be myself (29%)
- We go back much further (29%)
- She offers better advice (28%)
- She is less irritating (26%)
- We have much more in common (25%)
- She has a better sense of humor (19%)
- We go wild when we’re together (18%)
Source: The Independent
Anyone who’s moved to a new town knows it isn’t exactly easy to make new friends, especially as an adult. Now a new report reveals just how long of a commitment you need to give someone in order to turn them into a pal.
Researchers from the University of Kansas set out to determine exactly how long it takes to turn someone into a friend, and the answer may surprise you. To make this determination, study author Dr. Jeffrey Hall tracked two groups of people at new stages in their life -- a group of adults who recently relocated to a new area of the country, as well as a group of freshman at the University of Kansas. In both cases, subjects were to identify one person they met since their move that had friend potential, and then the progression of their relationship was tracked.
Needless to say, the more time subjects spent with a person, the closer they became, with the relationship turning to a “casual” friendship after spending about 30 hours together. Things progressed to actual friends after about 50 hours, but didn’t reach “close” friend until after about 140 hours. Now for someone to be a best friend, that took true commitment, with that label not a possibility until the folks spent at least 300 hours together.
Of course, it isn’t just about the hours. The study argues that it’s how folks spend those hours that determine whether people became friends. People are more likely to get close to each other if they:
- Watched a TV series together
- Shared jokes and laughter
- Had long, meaningful, deep and intense conversations
- Watched a movie together
- Engaged in friendly competition by playing video games
One way of spending time together that didn’t necessarily produce friendships was work. The study finds that when it comes to a working situation, the more time someone spent with a person in the office, the less likely they were to become friends.
Source: The Daily Mail
While a lot of folks like to limit their travel to the 50 states, there are plenty of people who love to venture to international destinations, and it seems certain states prefer certain locales.
A new report by InsureMyTrip reveals the most popular international travel destinations per state, based on travel insurance policies booked last year:
- Arkansas -- The Caribbean, Mexico, United Kingdom, Italy
- Oklahoma -- The Caribbean, Mexico, United Kingdom, Italy
- Missouri -- The Caribbean, Mexico, Italy, United Kingdom
Click here to find out the most popular international travel destination in your home state.
Source: Erie News Now
When you’re dealing with a stressful situation at work, sometimes it feels really cathartic to vent to friends and loved ones. But research shows it doesn’t really help, even if we think it makes us feel better. One study from last year found that not complaining about negative things that happened helped to minimize their impact. And workplace psychologistChristine Allen points out that venting can keep is stuck in negativity and complaining can actually make us feel worse.
So if something at work is driving you bananas and quitting isn’t an option, try one of these more productive alternatives to venting:
- Get moving and take a walk or run around the block - Use all that energy to do something physical, like walking around the block. And workplace psychologist Karissa Thacker advises taking deep breaths and says “it really does work.”
- Don’t give the subject of your gripes power over you, especially when you’re off the clock - It’s bad enough your job is getting you stressed while you’re at work, don’t let it eat into your personal time, too.
- Put a time limit on it - If you really need to complain for a few minutes, set a time limit and when you reach it, move on to a more solution-oriented mindset when you’re done venting.
- Write down those negative feelings and then get rid of them - It can help you stop ruminating, so try to let it go when you write it down.
- Get advice from someone further along in their career - It’ll help you feel like you’re not alone and give you tips for dealing with the situation like a pro.
- Make a real connection - At the office we’re always emailing and calling everyone, even those who work across the hall, so take a minute and have a real face-to-face conversation when you can, even for two minutes while you’re at the coffee machine or copier.
- Have checks and balances - If you’re trying to break the cycle of venting, ask someone you trust to help nudge you when you start doing it so you can catch yourself and stop.
Starting a workout routine for the first time can be intimidating, even when you’re really motivated. It’s going to be challenging, but when you know what to expect, you’ll be ready. So here are some tips for getting started on your new fitness routine and sticking with it.
- Don’t let fear steer you away - It’s normal to feel nervous before you start a new fitness routine, but don’t let your mental hurdle stop you from reaching your workout goals.
- Start slow and steady - You might want to start off with a drastic change at first, but experts says it’s not sustainable and advise mastering basic principles first.
- Ask for help from pros - Trainers, teachers, and gym employees are all there to help, so ask questions and use their knowledge.
- Focus on your own progress - Don’t try to keep up with the crowd around you when you’re starting out in a new fitness class or gym. Sit one out if you need to, just do what feels right for your body and go at your own pace.
- Being sore is normal, but take care of it - Post-workout muscle soreness comes with the territory, especially when you’re a newbie. But you need to learn how to help your body recover from the hard work, like stretching and foam-rolling.
- Remember, cardio isn’t the only option - The treadmill and the elliptical aren’t the only ways to get your heart pumping. Rowing machines are a fun alternative to some, and so are indoor cycling, HIIT workouts, dancing and boxing, so keep trying until you find something you like.
- Consider your whole body’s needs - If you spend all day slouched and slumped in front of a computer, your chest and shoulder muscles will be especially tight, so plan accordingly.
- Choose the right fuel for your body - You’ll need to energize your body with the right fuel before a workout, so eat a banana or some nut butter on an apple or slice of whole grain bread for a pre- or post-workout snack.
Source: Elite Daily