While we may think that most teenagers are in a rush to become adults, a new report reveals that’s actually not the case with teens these days. In fact, the study published in the journal “Child Development” finds teens are actually putting off such adult-related behaviors as drinking, jobs, driving, dating and more.
The survey looked at forty years of data, comparing teens today to those in the 70s, 80s and 90s, and discovered that the current crop of teens are developing independent behaviors at a slower rate than those in the past, and that goes for all economic groups and all parts of the country.
For example, comparing teens surveyed between 2010 and 2016, to those in the early nineties:
- 29% of ninth graders had sex, down from 38%
- 29% of eighth graders drank alcohol, down from 56%.
- 32% of eight graders had worked for pay, down from 63%
And for 12th graders between 2010 to 2016, compared to teens as far back as 1976:
- 67% drank, down from 93%
- 55% worked for pay, down from 76%
- 73% had drivers’ licenses, down from 88%
- 63% dated, down from 86%
- 62% had had sex, down from 68% in the early 1990s (The earliest that data was collected)
As for why, that’s the big question. While some have suggested homework and extracurricular activities are to blame, the study says that’s just not the case. Researchers do believe the Internet could be keeping kids away from driving and dating, while they also say “helicopter parenting” could be playing a role in kids' delayed adulthood.
Source: USA Today
As parents, we all feel guilty when we miss something in our kids’ lives. Working parents can’t always make it to every game, bedtime, and parent’s night at school and we feel bad when we let our little ones down. Actress Nicole Kidmaneven confessed her career has eaten into her family time as she accepted her Emmy for Outstanding Lead Actress. So having it all is tough, even for celebrities.
Psychiatrist Dr. Matthew Lorber assures us that these guilty feelings are normal, but there are things we can do to help. Here are some ways to cope with the guilt from missing moments in our kids’ lives.
- Remind yourself that you’re setting a good example - “By working, a mom is serving as a role model for her children in having her career and showing them, if it’s a daughter,” that they can go far in their careers, Lorber says. “You’re setting a great role model for your daughter,” or your son, he adds, by building a career and achieving your goals.
- Remember why you’re working and let the kids know it too - Lorber says working parents should let their kids know that the reason they work is to provide certain advantages and give them a better life.
- Avoid people who exacerbate your guilt - And when you do encounter the mommy-shamers, instead of saying something passive aggressive, Lorber suggests disarming the attack by saying something like, “You know, I wish I had more time to spend with my children.”
- Be there for the important things, don’t punish yourself for missing the rest - You know which events and moments are most special, so make being there for those a priority. Then let go of the guilt for the things you have to miss due to work.
According to AAA, 28% of folks say they will take some sort of vacation between Labor Day and Thanksgiving. Benefits of traveling in the fall include fewer crowds and children, better weather and better deals. 62% of folks are planning to get in their car for their fall getaway, with 62% of people planning a trip to see the fall foliage.
We’re all busy with our hectic schedules and some nights, that means we need dinner to be the quickest, easiest thing we can pull together. And sometimes that means we end up eating less healthy meals, like pizza, fast food, or whatever we find in the pantry. But according to registered dietitian Keri Glassman, it’s easy to throw together a quick, healthy meal when we get home from work and we’re starving. And it all has to do with keeping the right stuff on hand in the fridge to throw together a nutritious meal in a flash. Glassman says we should always have these things on our shopping list:
- Cans of organic chickpeas, kidney beans, tuna, and salmon
- Bags of prewashed salad greens
- Frozen cauliflower rice
- Frozen veggies like cauliflower, broccoli, and asparagus
- Frozen precooked, microwavable organic brown rice
- Frozen fruit like raspberries and mango
- Fresh produce such as tomatoes and cucumbers
- Savory extras like olives or feta cheese
With these ingredients on hand, when you get home at the end of a long day, you can throw together a few of these and have a healthy meal in no time. And you won’t have to feel guilty for ordering takeout for the third time this week.
Source: Women's Health
According to a new survey, women will cry 4,680 times over their adult lifetime, which is more than twice the tears of men. 51% of women admit to being a big crier, while only 30% of men say the same. 40% of men say they aren’t embarrassed when they cry in public, while only a third of women say the same.
Source: New York Post